“You need reassurance”

Why am I so heartbroken that he thinks that? I mean he’s not wrong lol I just hate that he knows it and sees right through me.

(Pausing a podcast that he’s sharing with me about relationships and knowing your own needs.) V: I think I know what you need. What do you think I need? K: Freedom and Happiness V: Yea you’re right you got it. I think yours is reassurance. You always want to make sure we’re good and you need to hear it from me.

I instantly felt hurt, exposed, and heartbroken. You mean all this work I’m trying to do to take care of myself you so you don’t have to feel like I always need assurance isn’t working? Are you saying I’ve failed in my self-development work of healing my insecurities and you can still see and feel them??

But he’s not wrong. Because here I am one week later and we know he’s been through it enough after 3 years together.